Healing All Relationships: notes from my presentation for ACIM Virtual Conference #3: Oct. 21-23, 2016


Since a primary focus of ACIM is relationships, I had both a challenge … and a lot of fun! … assembling ideas for the video recording I did for  the 3rd Annual ACIM Virtual Conference, hosted by MiracleShare. There are just SO many aspects of relationships that relate to our forgiveness classroom (i.e. ALL of them!), even if one focuses on merely the interpersonal ones. Each one of the many topics below could easily be expanded on in much greater detail! Here are my notes that formed the basis of the half-hour recorded talk I did, which will be part of the two dozen plus recorded video lineup, each of which will be followed by live phone-in questions and answers. Hope you can join us! 🙂

Here’s a link to the prior post I made with more details about the conference, including registration.

If you are reading this in August, 2016, you still have ONE MORE DAY to register at the reduced rate for this fun event which is a bargain particularly compared with ‘live conferences’, even at the full Sept. price.

… and here are my notes from the video I recorded this morning for the conference; enjoy! 🙂

Topic: “Healing All Relationships”
If you are committed to transforming your special relationships into holy relationships, this year’s conference theme of “Healing All Relationships” is for you.
Thanks to Corinne, Craig and Danielle and everyone involved with MiracleShare for hosting this 3rd Virtual ACIM Conference! What a great way to share A Course in Miracles …and a perfect metaphor that the selves that are doing the sharing (on the level of form) are indeed virtual, symbolic representations of the “capital S” Self we all are and share beyond space and time.
ACIM is always and only about content of the mind, never about behavior or form. Without that foundation, we get hopelessly lost in ego’s propaganda machine: space-time identification. As Ken Wapnick says, we can never get too far from the non-dual metaphysics of the Course.
Relationship Topics:
  • Relationships exist in mind
  • Any relationship includes all relationships
  • There are only 2 relationships …
  • Our relationship with ego is a dysfunctional fantasy
  • Our relationship with HS (IKT) restores the peace of Oneness …
  • We don’t understand Oneness, so HS uses sameness (shared interests)
  • We can afford to be kind to everyone …
  • … and everything …
  • … but only from above the battleground of duality …
  • and we return from duality when we …
  • forgive our decision-making minds … by the 3 R’s … or maybe 4 R’s within this context? 🙂
  • REVEAL our ego investment: catch that aspect of mind in the act of condemning
  • RELEASE our mind’s grip on that identity investment: see that it’s not working
  • REPLACE: allow IKT to replace ego’s anxiety/fear/anger/desolation with peace
  • RELATE: to everything differently, because we are related in Spirit to all as Self
” … ‘(3:4) We have covered the illusion of time already, but the illusion of levels of teaching seems to be something different.’ We really think there is a difference between our important and unimportant relationships, concept the ego loves, for it reinforces the notion of a hierarchy of illusions–its first law of chaos (T-23.II.2-3). …” – ‪#‎KennethWapnick‬, ‪#‎JourneyThroughTheManual‬ of ‪#‎ACourseInMiracles‬, p. 24
There are only 2 relationships:
     Our (healing, helpful) relationship to our Inner Kindness Teacher (a.k.a. Holy Spirit)
… and
     our (imaginary, dysfunctional) relationship to ego:
          the maladaptive solution to the non-existent problem
All our OTHER SEEMINGLY external relationships are simply reflections of the two:
     extensions of our (healing) relationship to our Inner Kindness Teacher
… or
     projections of our (dysfunctional) relationship to ego.
We tend to focus on our relationships with other people; we tend to be species snobs with respect to humans, but our relationships with anything and everything, anyone and everyone – in the service of our Inner Kindness Teacher – can be a mirroring mechanism to return us to the mind.
These relationships all can … and must … be healed by inclusive, generalized learning using the very same specifics ego intended as magic to keep separate, which now HS uses as miracles to restore wholeness.
Ego’s purpose is to keep us in the dream of separation by fixating beyond mere impartial preferences between illusions that are equal in truth … illusion A = illusion B, etc.
… to making a ‘big deal’ over differences. Our entire space-time culture is – by default – employed by ego to reinforce this zombie propaganda of unconscious sin-guilt-fear, but we can meet every one and everything with mercy and gratitude for their mirroring gifts (showing us the contents of our unconscious mind) instead of being ‘at the mercy of’ and therefore in contempt and condemnation of – at war with – everything that SEEMS to be outside us.
That profound difference in the  “What is it for?” question that we ask of everyone … changes everything from prison to classroom.
Here are some examples of general categories of relationships that SEEM to be external; note which ones ‘press your buttons’ … which ones are your ‘sacred cows’ … and which ones might be dormant traps waiting for just the right time to pounce (from our own scripts) on ‘us’ … seemingly in response to someone else’s script … but we wrote every line of our life’s screenplay … just not necessarily on a conscious level.
RELATIONSHIP categories: as egos we WANT these problems to keep ourselves mindless; as we grow weary of this dysfunction, we begin to generalize and see each of these categories as a venue for mindful forgiveness of our belief in separation … we CHANGE THE PURPOSE OF EACH OF THESE RELATIONSHIPS from condemnation to healing … from magic (of differences) to miracle (of sameness):
HUMAN Relationships
     Our own bodies / definition of ‘self’
          Food / Water / Nutrition / “our definition” of What is or isn’t healthy /
               diet / weight / self-image / addictions
          Fatigue / Stamina / Vitality / Sleep / Fitness / health issues / pleasure
          Exercise / Mobility / Cancer / Heart disease / rare illnesses
          Age / Health / Disease / Medicine / Mortality / Death
          Asceticism / Indulgence / Alcohol / Drugs (prescription/recreational)
     Other bodies / definition of ‘other’
          Family / Parents / Siblings / Relatives / Genetics / Heredity
          Spouses / Sexuality (hetero/homo) / boundaries / fidelity
          Friends / Enemies / Communities (physical/virtual)
          Co-workers / Bosses / Employees
          Cultural / Gender / Ethnic / Sexual Orientation / Political Biases / Party affiliation
               Legal status / criminal record / taxes / sovereignty / corruption
          Wars / Drones / Privacy / Terrorism / Bureaucracy /
Animals / Pets / Wildlife / Plants / Food resources / Extinction
          Viruses / Bacteria / GMOs / Pesticides / Food additives / CO2 / Pollution
Minerals / “Inanimate objects”
          Money / Exchange / Wealth / Poverty / Lack / Loss / Security / Retirement
          Technology / Cell phones / Computers / Television / Radio / Texting
               Software / Hardware / Pundits / Blogosphere / Media biases
          Cars / Traffic / Airlines / Safety / Commuting / Boats / Skateboards
          Housing / Poverty / Affluence / Stuff / Lifestyle / Comparisons / “real” estate
          Clothing / Style / Fashion / Culture / Art / Music / Literature / Drama / Movies
               Death Metal, Country Western, Classical, other genres
          Weather / Ecology / Temperature / Climate
               disasters / tornados / lightning / volcanos / earthquakes / tidal waves / loss
     Dimensions / Quantum Physics
     Atoms  to Galaxies
     Quarks to Quasars
     Emptiness of Space
     Schedules / Leisure / Work / Play / Boredom / Puritan ethic / holidays
     our ‘personal’ stories / Family stories / 
     pet peeves
     ___ makes me feel ___
     past events “sins” no one knows about
     past events  “sins” others know about and won’t forgive you
BE GENTLE with yourself if you notice a lot of these still push your buttons; these are all fair game for our forgiveness classroom.
I then gave a few examples from FACIM’s superb FACIMoutreach.org website.

I invite you to join over two dozen ACIM presenters, including those featured in ACIMblog.com video and audio conversations (such as Susan Dugan, and Cindy Lora-Renard) plus hundreds of Course students for an Online Miracle Party on this very topic!

The prices are increasing on Thursday, Sept. 1, 2016; (still a superb bargain compared with attending a physical conference) so now is a great time to register for the virtual conference! I look forward to sharing the event with you! : -)

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